How to Find Your "P-Spot"

Ever wondered if men have their own version of the female G-spot? Meet the P-spot. 

The “P” in P-spot refers to the prostate gland, and directly stimulating it might be your ticket to heightened sexual pleasure — as long as you do it safely and gently. 

Want to learn how to incorporate the P-spot into your sex life?

Below, we share everything you need to know about how to find your prostate, why it’s called the male G-spot, and what men have to say about prostate-induced orgasms.

Your prostate is a walnut-sized gland that sits under your bladder and above the muscles that make up your pelvic floor. It wraps around the top of your urethra, roughly aligning with the upper side of your penis. Its main job? Producing prostatic fluid, a key component of seminal fluid (AKA semen).

So, do men have G-spots?

During male sexual arousal, the prostate ramps up fluid production. Many men report that direct or indirect pressure on the gland during sexual experiences can lead to intensely pleasurable, full-body orgasms. 

But the science on the so-called “prostate orgasm” is still catching up, and for some, the P-spot might be hiding elsewhere, or might not exist at all. 

So what’s behind this P-spot-related pleasure? It could be the multitude of nerve endings in the area, or perhaps the satisfying sensation of rectal fullness or transrectal pressure on other internal spots. 

The P-spot and male G-spot are one in the same. These two terms are just different names for the same pleasure zone located in the rectum.

So, where is the male G-spot? Well, you’ll need to do a little exploring to pinpoint it. Unlike your penis and scrotum, your G-spot, or P-spot, is inside your body (more on its possible coordinates in a bit).

Curious about what happens when you explore your prostate? You’re not alone. 

Many men enjoy prostate stimulation, with some experiencing intense pleasure and even stronger orgasms than those from penile stimulation or other erogenous zones, according to research.  

While anal penetration is still a bit of a taboo subject, especially among heterosexual men, curiosity is starting to break down barriers and softening the stigma.  

Online prostate orgasm stories in men’s health publications show that the mainstream is at least open to exploring their P-spots.

But prostate massage techniques aren’t for everyone, and that’s perfectly okay. You should only explore what feels right for you.

If you are interested in giving prostate stimulation a try, consider talking openly about it with your partner. Remember, open communication is key to sexual intimacy. 

You can apply pressure to the prostate in a couple of ways. One method is to gently push against your perineum from the outside. Another is a more direct approach: prostate massage.

Outside Stimulation

Stimulating your prostate from the outside can lead to pleasurable sensations. 

To try this, gently press one or more fingers against the perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus. 

Additionally, for some men, pressing against the anus without penetration is enough to indirectly stimulate the prostate. 

Direct Stimulation

For a more direct way to stimulate your prostate, try self-massage. You can use your fingers to gently press the prostate gland from inside the anus. 

Or try a dildo or prostate massage device, an anal sex toy designed specifically to engage the prostate. Many prostate massagers target your prostate gland from the inside and outside of your body for stimulation from multiple angles.

If you don’t feel comfortable stimulating your prostate gland yourself, you can ask your partner to gently press the front of the rectum to reach the prostate for you. 

The G-spot in men isn’t in the same place for everyone. But for many, it’s near the prostate gland. More specifically, the prostate is located below the bladder and next to the rectum.

The simplest way to reach it is through the anus, using a finger or toy about two inches deep. 

The prostate gland swells with fluid when you get sexually aroused, making it easier to find. A bit of preparation, like foreplay or masturbation, can help. 

If you do decide to try stimulating your G-spot, it’s best to take it slow. And don’t stress about finding the male G-spot on your first try. 

If you’re ready to explore, make sure your hands are clean and use gentle motions. 

Here’s the safest way to find the male G-spot:

1. Lube up and start with a massage. Start by putting some lube on your fingers and carefully massaging the taint and the outside of the anus. Gradually slip one finger inside the anus.

2. Look for the walnut. To find your P-spot, your finger should be pointing up (toward the belly button). Try to curl it a little bit and feel for a small bump similar in size and shape to a walnut.

3. If you feel like you need to pee, it’s a good sign. For many men, pushing on the prostate makes them feel like they have to urinate. If you experience this sensation, either keep applying gentle pressure or start massaging to stimulate the prostate gland.

4. Be open to exploration. Not feeling anything? Your P-spot might be elsewhere — or you might not have one, even if you’ve successfully located your prostate.

If you’re ready to try things with a plus one, the key is to take it slow and steady. Here’s how:

• Start on the outside. For starters, try letting your partner touch your anus from the outside, preferably using as little pressure as possible.

• Insert a finger. If that feels good, ask them to gently and slowly insert their lubed finger, going deeper based on how it feels.

• Consider exploring first. You might want to try experimenting on your own while you masturbate, then share your discoveries with your partner later.

• Don’t stress. You should only do what you feel comfortable doing. Don’t be afraid to let your partner know what does and doesn’t feel good. 

Sex is supposed to be fun, intimate, and enjoyable — not stressful and anxiety-inducing. 

With a little creativity and flexibility, you can incorporate prostate fingering with other sexual activities, from oral sex to penetrative sex.

Dos and Don’ts for Safe P-Spot Play

Maybe you’ve found your P-spot and loved the experience. Or perhaps you’re just looking to spice things up. Whatever the case, adding a little prostate play to your sex life is easier than you think. Here’s what to remember before you start:

• DON’T forget to prep. Make sure your rectum and anus are clean. Also, make sure your hands and your partner’s hands are clean and free of cuts. If you don’t like the idea of getting messy,, use rubber or latex gloves or finger cots (AKA condoms for your fingers).

• DO use lubrication. Invest in high-quality lubricant. Unlike the vagina, your anus doesn’t produce enough lubrication itself for insertion, so there’s a greater risk of injury when you insert a finger, butt plug, or other type of silicone or metal sex toy. Your anus is also extremely sensitive to touch, meaning lube will protect you from injury and make insertion more comfortable. 

• DO experiment. Experiment until you find the best angle, the optimal amount of pressure, and the perfect rhythm for P-spot stimulation. 

• DO invest in sex toys. If you find that P-spot sex is your new favorite thing, consider investing in some sex toys for the bedroom, like anal beads, anal vibrators, butt plugs, strap-ons, or prostate massagers.

• DON’T insert unsafe objects. Remember that not everything is appropriate for anal penetration. Some objects, particularly anything that’s thin or small, can potentially get lost inside your anus, requiring an uncomfortable trip to the emergency room for removal.

To keep yourself safe, stick to toys that are designed specifically for anal play, preferably with a wide base that will prevent them from moving too far up your rectum.

No one is debating whether the prostate exists, but whether it can trigger mind-blowing pleasure is more about personal preference. If you’re curious about exploring prostate play, keep in mind:

• Stimulating your P-Spot may intensify your orgasms. Some studies suggest men find prostate-induced orgasms to be more pleasurable than penile orgasms.

• It might not be for you, and that’s okay. Don’t feel bad if you try a prostate massage and don’t really enjoy it. Some men find prostate massages to be irritating or unpleasant, and that’s perfectly fine. 

• Above all, do it safely. Go slow, use plenty of high-quality lubrication, and make sure to prioritize hygiene. 

Remember, even though P-spot play may feel good, it isn't a treatment for erectile dysfunction (ED) or premature ejaculation (PE). If you’re experiencing ED or PE symptoms, consider consulting a healthcare provider. They can offer medical advice ranging from prescription medication to lifestyle changes.

Hims offers a range of sexual performance medications online, including FDA-approved treatments for erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.

And don’t discount the importance of communicating clearly with your partner. Open communication may help with sexual performance anxiety. 

If you’re here because you have or have had prostate issues in the past, read this guide to having sex after prostate cancer and find out if an enlarged prostate can affect a man sexually.