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How to Find Your "P-Spot"

Mike Bohl, MD, MPH, ALM

Reviewed by Mike Bohl, MD

Written by Geoffrey Whittaker

Published 07/18/2019

Updated 03/01/2024

The female G-spot is a supposed area in the vagina that’s “extra-orgasmic,” but some men also have a supposed special spot of their own for intensified pleasure: the P-spot. And if you’re reading this, you’re probably trying to find it.

The “P” in “P-spot” stands for the prostate gland. Stimulation in the direction of the prostate gland can add to sexual pleasure for some men with the right safe and gentle techniques.

You likely have questions and concerns about incorporating the P-spot into your sex life.

Below, we’ve explained everything you need to know about your P-spot, how to find the prostate and how to bring P-spot play into your bedroom experiences.

Let’s start at the knobby little core of this conversation: the prostate.

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that sits under your bladder and above the muscles that make up your pelvic floor, surrounding the top part of your urethra and approximately in line with the upper side of your penis. It produces prostatic fluid, a component of semen.

During male sexual arousal (read: when you get turned on), the prostate produces more fluid, and many men find that direct or indirect pressure in the direction of the gland during sexual activity creates a deep pleasurable sensation that can lead to more powerful and intense orgasms — allegedly. Medically speaking, the existence of the prostate orgasm hasn’t been well studied. In other men, the P-spot may actually be located elsewhere. Or it may not exist at all.

This pleasurable sensation is possibly due to the large number of nerve endings found in the area. Other possibilities are that pleasure is derived from feelings of rectal fullness or transrectal pressure to other internal body parts.

If you’re curious about the difference between the “P-spot” and “male G-spot,” the answer is — *drum roll* — nothing.

These are two different terms that are used interchangeably to refer to an area in the rectum that, when stimulated, feels pleasurable. The “P” in P-spot is short for prostate. It’s a real organ that can be pointed to in any anatomy textbook. And in some men, it’s where the supposed P-spot is.

But pointing to it on a medical chart and pointing to it in person are two entirely different tasks (and one requires lube).

So, where is the male G-spot? Well, you’ll have to do some reaching around to locate it exactly. Unlike your penis and scrotum, your G-spot, or P-spot, is situated inside your body (more on its possible coordinates in a bit).

We’re willing to bet that your most pressing question is what happens when you press on your prostate. Will it feel good — do other guys really enjoy it?

Yes, many men enjoy having their P-spot stimulated. A lot of biological men of all gender identities and sexual orientations do find direct and indirect pressure in the direction of their prostate to be really pleasurable, with some experiencing erections and generally high levels of pleasure when this erogenous zone is stimulated.

But some apprehension is understandable because anal penetration remains taboo, especially among heterosexual men.

Perhaps as a result of that, studies asking men to weigh in on their openness are very hard to come by (we haven’t seen any yet). But in recent years, curiosity seems to be killing the stigma-cat, at least if you believe the headlines.

Stories from Vice about prostate orgasms aren’t exactly a surprise, even when they were published back in 2016, but Men’s Health publishing a prostate orgasm tips list in 2021 shows that the mainstream is at least open to scrolling. And British GQ went so far as to ask in 2021 why men are afraid of their P-spots. If nothing else, it’s all representative of a growing trend toward open mindedness.

But it’s far from a universal pleasure. Prostate massage techniques aren’t necessarily for everyone, and there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to give this type of thing a try — you should never do anything that you don’t want to.

But if you’re interested in giving it a try, or possibly optimizing your sexual function, you may want to talk to your partner openly about this type of sexual stimulation.

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There are several ways to put pressure on the prostate. These include stimulating your prostate gland from the outside of your body by gently pushing against your perineum and more directly stimulating your prostate gland through a prostate massage.

Outside Stimulation

Stimulating your prostate gland from the outside may create a mild sensation that, for some men, produces sexual pleasure. You can do this by using one or more fingers to push against the perineum near the anus and increase prostate stimulation.

Some men find that pushing against the anus without any penetration (for example, just pushing from the outside) also stimulates the prostate indirectly.

Direction Stimulation

A much more direct way to stimulate your prostate is by using a self-prostate massage. You can do this manually by using one or more of your fingers to press against your prostate gland from the inside of your anus.

You can also use a prostate massage device — a type of sex toy designed specifically to engage the prostate. Many prostate massagers target your prostate gland from the inside and outside of your body to deliver stimulation from multiple angles.

If you don’t feel comfortable stimulating your prostate gland yourself or using a device to reach it for you, you can ask your partner to gently press on the inside wall of your rectum to target your prostate gland for you.

The “G-spot for men” can be in different places for different people — and some may not have it at all. For many, it’s in the direction of the prostate gland.

To get anatomical for a second, the prostate is below the bladder and next to the rectum. The easiest pathway to contact or stimulation of the prostate is through the anus — placing a finger or toy roughly two inches deep (a couple of knuckles deep, if you’re using a finger).

The prostate gland swells with fluid when you feel sexually aroused, meaning it generally isn’t too difficult to find if you’ve spent a little bit of time preparing yourself with things like foreplay or masturbation.

If you do decide to try stimulating your G-spot, it’s best to take it slow. And don’t necessarily try to find the male G-spot on your first anal expedition.

“How to find prostate” is the next logical question to Google if you’re ready to do some exploration, and one of the simplest sets of directions we can offer is for how to find your prostate by touch.

Here’s the safest way to explore:

  1. Start by putting some lube on your fingers and carefully massaging the outside of the anus, then gradually slip one finger inside.

  2. To find your P-spot, your finger should be pointing up (toward the belly button). Try to curl it a little bit. As we said earlier, you might feel the prostate gland as a small bump similar in size and shape to a walnut.

  3. Many men say that the first thing they notice when someone pushes on their prostate is a feeling like they have to urinate. This makes sense, because the prostate is close to your bladder.

  4. If you notice that you feel like you need to urinate, take it as a sign that you’re in the right place and either keep applying gentle pressure or start massaging your prostate gland.

  5. If that’s not doing it for you, your P-spot might be elsewhere — or you might not have one, even if you are successfully feeling your prostate.

Choose your chew

If you’re ready to try things with a plus one, you can follow the same general principle of “slow and steady” for prostate play with a friend:

  • For starters, try letting your partner touch your anus from the outside, preferably using as little pressure as possible.

  • If that feels good, ask them to insert their finger a little bit, then escalate based on how you feel together.

  • Alternatively, you might want to try experimenting on your own while you masturbate, then share your discoveries with your partner later.

  • Take it slow and only proceed if and when you feel comfortable so that you can enjoy the experience — not stress about it.

Either way, it’s important to always do what’s best for you and your partner. Sex is supposed to be fun, intimate and beautiful — not stressful and anxiety-inducing. With a little creativity and flexibility, you can combine this prostate fingering with a number of other sexual activities, from masturbation to oral sex to penetrative sex.

Whether you’ve found your P-spot and really like what happened next, or you’re simply curious or actively looking, there are a few things you can do to incorporate prostate play into your regular sex life.

  • Experiment until you find the best angle, the optimal amount of pressure and the perfect rhythm for P-spot stimulation. Maybe it’s just as you’re getting turned on, or maybe you’d rather save it for a moment before you’re about to reach orgasm and ejaculate.

  • If you find that P-spot sex is your new favorite thing, you may want to invest in some sex toys for the bedroom such as anal beads, anal vibrators, butt plugs or strap-ons.

  • Just remember that not everything is appropriate for anal penetration. Some objects, particularly anything that’s thin or small, can potentially get lost inside your anus, requiring an uncomfortable trip to the emergency room for removal.

To keep yourself safe, stick to toys that are designed specifically for prostate play, preferably with a wide base that will prevent them from moving too far up your rectum.

So, you’re ready to try stimulating your prostate or other areas inside your rectum. Great!

But there are a few things that you may want to do before engaging in any kind of anal play, whether you’re stimulating your prostate or letting your partner do it for you. It’s all about hygiene, prep and safety:

  • Make sure your rectum and anus are clean.

  • Make sure your hands are clean and free of cuts.

  • Prep with lubrication and, if you’re trying to avoid getting your hands dirty, rubber/latex gloves or finger cots (which are like condoms for your fingers).

An important note: invest in some high-quality lubricant. Unlike the vagina, your anus does not produce enough lubrication itself for insertion, meaning there’s a greater risk of injury when you insert a finger, butt plug or other type of silicone or metal sex toy.

The surface of your anus is also extremely sensitive to touch, meaning lube will both protect you from injury and make the process of inserting anything much easier.

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Interested in finding out more about how you can improve your sexual health, performance and pleasure? In addition to learning how to find your prostate, there are several other ways to enjoy more satisfying, pleasurable sex.

No one is debating whether the prostate exists, but whether it can work as an orgasm-inducing pleasure zone is mostly a matter of personal opinion. If you decide to see if prostate play is right for you, remember:

  • If you’re up for some exploration, great. Keep finding new ways to stimulate your P-spot.

  • But don’t feel bad if you try it and don’t really enjoy it. Some men find prostate massages to be irritating or unpleasant. That’s totally okay.

  • Above all, do it safely — go slow, use plenty of high-quality lubrication and make sure everything stays clean.

  • And remember, P-spot pleasure isn't a treatment for ED or PE.

Whether or not you get into prostate play, it’s important to talk to a healthcare provider if you’re experiencing issues such as erectile dysfunction (ED) and premature ejaculation (PE).

And no matter what, communicating clearly with your partner is important not just to overcome common issues such as sexual performance anxiety, but to discover what you like in bed.

We offer a range of sexual performance medications online, including FDA-approved treatments for erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.

You can also learn more about improving your sexual experience in our detailed guide to how to last longer in bed.

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Mike Bohl, MD

Dr. Mike Bohl is a licensed physician, a Medical Advisor at Hims & Hers, and the Director of Scientific & Medical Content at a stealth biotech startup, where he is involved in pharmaceutical drug development. Prior to joining Hims & Hers, Dr. Bohl spent several years working in digital health, focusing on patient education. He has also worked in medical journalism for The Dr. Oz Show (receiving recognition for contributions from the National Academy of Television Arts and Sciences when the show won Outstanding Informative Talk Show at the 2016–2017 Daytime Emmy® Awards) and at Sharecare. He is a Medical Expert Board Member at Eat This, Not That! and a Board Member at International Veterinary Outreach.

Dr. Bohl obtained his Bachelor of Arts and Doctor of Medicine from Brown University, his Master of Public Health from Columbia University, and his Master of Liberal Arts in Extension Studies—Journalism from Harvard University. He is currently pursuing a Master of Business Administration and Master of Science in Healthcare Leadership at Cornell University. Dr. Bohl trained in internal medicine with a focus on community health at NYU Langone Health.

Dr. Bohl is Certified in Public Health by the National Board of Public Health Examiners, Medical Writer Certified by the American Medical Writers Association, a certified Editor in the Life Sciences by the Board of Editors in the Life Sciences, a Certified Personal Trainer and Certified Nutrition Coach by the National Academy of Sports Medicine, and a Board Certified Medical Affairs Specialist by the Accreditation Council for Medical Affairs. He has graduate certificates in Digital Storytelling and Marketing Management & Digital Strategy from Harvard Extension School and certificates in Business Law and Corporate Governance from Cornell Law School.

In addition to his written work, Dr. Bohl has experience creating medical segments for radio and producing patient education videos. He has also spent time conducting orthopedic and biomaterial research at Case Western Reserve University and University Hospitals of Cleveland and practicing clinically as a general practitioner on international medical aid projects with Medical Ministry International.

Dr. Bohl lives in Manhattan and enjoys biking, resistance training, sailing, scuba diving, skiing, tennis, and traveling. You can find Dr. Bohl on LinkedIn for more information.

Publications

  • Younesi, M., Knapik, D. M., Cumsky, J., Donmez, B. O., He, P., Islam, A., Learn, G., McClellan, P., Bohl, M., Gillespie, R. J., & Akkus, O. (2017). Effects of PDGF-BB delivery from heparinized collagen sutures on the healing of lacerated chicken flexor tendon in vivo. Acta biomaterialia, 63, 200–209. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1742706117305652?via%3Dihub

  • Gebhart, J. J., Weinberg, D. S., Bohl, M. S., & Liu, R. W. (2016). Relationship between pelvic incidence and osteoarthritis of the hip. Bone & joint research, 5(2), 66–72. https://boneandjoint.org.uk/Article/10.1302/2046-3758.52.2000552

  • Gebhart, J. J., Bohl, M. S., Weinberg, D. S., Cooperman, D. R., & Liu, R. W. (2015). Pelvic Incidence and Acetabular Version in Slipped Capital Femoral Epiphysis. Journal of pediatric orthopedics, 35(6), 565–570. https://journals.lww.com/pedorthopaedics/abstract/2015/09000/pelvic_incidence_and_acetabular_version_in_slipped.5.aspx

  • Islam, A., Bohl, M. S., Tsai, A. G., Younesi, M., Gillespie, R., & Akkus, O. (2015). Biomechanical evaluation of a novel suturing scheme for grafting load-bearing collagen scaffolds for rotator cuff repair. Clinical biomechanics (Bristol, Avon), 30(7), 669–675. https://www.clinbiomech.com/article/S0268-0033(15)00143-6/fulltext

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