Is Sex on a Plane Possible?

Having sex on a plane sounds more fun than passing the time by reading an in-flight magazine—and it’s an act that that many folks actually do. According to a survey conducted by the private jet charter company Stratos Jets, of the 2,000 respondents who fly at least once a year, around 17 percent had engaged in sexual activity (beyond kissing) on a plane. And more than half had fantasized about it.

If you’ve never had sex on a plane yourself, you may have some questions about the logistics of doing it. First and foremost, how do people pull it off? Also, is plane sex illegal? And what happens if the flight attendants catch you?

We talked to a guy who recently joined the mile-high club with his wife, and he shared how they did it, whether they got caught, and tips for fellow passengers itching to get off before getting off the plane.

There is no specific law in the United States prohibiting sexual intercourse on a commercial flight. However, there are laws around public sex and public nudity. Therefore, if you aren’t careful, you may face legal consequences, or get fined by or banned from the airline that hosted your mile-high dalliance. Also, keep in mind that various countries may have different laws around public decency, so make sure to do your research before getting frisky on an international flight.

Jay*, a 39-year-old Brand Manager from Phoenix, AZ, had always wanted to join the mile-high club. “As someone who has spent the last 15 years of life traveling on a regular basis, it has always been a dream,” he says.

After he and his wife Leigh* got together about three years ago, they started adding different sexual acts to their travel journeys. “I'd used vibrators on her in our seat on planes plenty of times, and she had played with me under the blanket, but we had never been able to pull off intercourse while soaring 30,000 feet above the Earth.”

That all changed on a recent international flight back to the U.S. from Australia.

Here are some tips, based on how this couple pulled it off:

Book Seats Near the Back of the Plane

A key factor that helped make Jay and Leigh’s mile-high dream come true was booking seats at the back of the plane. With a little pre-planning, they were lucky enough to have a row to themselves.

Jay says this was important because it allowed them to be discreet, without any nosy neighbors wondering why they both quickly left the row and returned with “big smiles and a look of accomplishment” on their flushed faces.

Wait for the Flight Attendants to Be Busy

When the seat belt sign turns off and the cabin crew gets to work, you can get to work, too.

“Our plan was to make our way to the back when they first started serving drinks,” says Jay. “That way, all the flight attendants would be busy. That first drink service happens very quickly after takeoff, and most people don’t have to use the bathroom yet.” Meaning, the coast is likely to be clear.

Sneak In Foreplay at Your Seat

If you have a row to yourselves like Jay and Leigh did, Jay suggests making use of that privacy and engaging in some subtle foreplay. While a hand job or blowjob under a blanket might be a little risky at your seat (and illegal if you get caught), squeezing in a make-out session or listening to a sexy podcast together can be hot ways to get prepped before you squeeze into the plane’s lavatory.

“We started off getting a little fired up together in our seats, and once we felt the coast was clear, popped into the restroom,” says Jay.

Pick Your Position Wisely, and Make It a Quickie

Anyone who has ever flown on a commercial flight knows how tiny the bathrooms are. So, your sex positions are going to be limited. For Jay, penetrating his partner from behind while standing was the easiest way to make it work. They made sure their session was relatively quick, and luckily nobody knocked. 

Travel with Sex Toys

Traveling with sex toys can make your sky-high experience even more exciting.

Jay and Leigh traveled with a small, travel-size magic wand vibrator. But you can also travel with a discreet bullet vibrator, lube, or any other sex gear that makes it easier for you and/or your partner to leave the experience fully satisfied.

For Jay and Leigh, the experience of plane sex was satisfying enough that they’re planning on doing it again. “We decided that now that we are in the club, we would like to make it more of a punch card situation,” says Jay. “We look forward to punching the card again soon.”

If you’re planning on joining the mile-high club, remember to keep these things in mind:

• Don’t get caught. We can’t guarantee you won’t get fined or lose your flying privileges with a certain airline if you happen to get caught having sex on a plane. Remember to be discreet and wait until the flight attendants are busy before getting busy.

• Do some pre-planning. Book seats at the back of the plane close to the airplane bathroom if you plan on having sex on the flight.

• Spice things up. You may be limited when it comes to sex positions, but feel free to travel with sex toys, like a bullet vibrator you can slip into your carry-on luggage.

Having sex on a plane may not double your frequent flyer points, but it can double your bragging rights. For more ideas on how to spice up your sex life, check out our guide on how to please a woman and explore our sexual health products, including sex toys, lube, and condoms.

*Name has been changed.