A prejac is a person with a premature ejaculation fetish. Prejacs find pleasure in ejaculating early and adhere to a variety of training methods to increase their sensitivity.
A prejac is a person with a premature ejaculation fetish. Prejacs find pleasure in ejaculating early and adhere to a variety of training methods to increase their sensitivity.
Though premature ejaculation (PE) is a common sexual dysfunction that most people try to correct, some men find excitement in the surprise or intensity of a quick climax. This perspective challenges the idea that longer sex always equals better sex.
Keep reading to find out more about how early ejaculation might enhance your sexual encounters, how to train yourself to become a prejac, and what to do if PE is starting to cause distress for you or your relationship.
Also known as early ejaculation, premature ejaculation is a sexual dysfunction in which a person reaches orgasm very quickly during sexual activity, which can cause distress for them and/or their partner.
There are two different types of premature ejaculation:
Lifelong PE: Symptoms start when the person first becomes sexually active and persist for all or most of their sex life.
Acquired PE: Symptoms develop later in life after a period of sexual performance perceived to be a normal duration.
Symptoms of PE include:
Ejaculating within one to three minutes after penetration
Inability to control or delay ejaculation
Distress or anxiety over early ejaculation
Though there’s no hard and fast rule about how long sex should last, some research has concluded that a session of “adequate” length lasts three to seven minutes, though most people find seven to 13 minutes of sex to be more desirable. Sex lasting one or two minutes was designated as too short.
Premature ejaculation is one of the most common forms of sexual dysfunction, affecting as many as 75 percent of men worldwide (though estimates vary widely due to subjective reporting).
For many of these men, feeling incapable of prolonging sex can lead to psychological issues like anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem, along with relationship issues, sexual dissatisfaction, and impaired quality of life. Some men may also have erectile dysfunction (ED), the inability to get or maintain an erection long enough to have satisfying sex, on top of premature ejaculation. A 2022 Study found that there is a bidirectional relationship between ED and PE, with PE linked to a fourfold higher risk of ED.
Many men avoid seeking treatment for ED and PE because they feel shame or embarrassment about the prospect of broaching the topic with their doctors.
PE isn’t necessarily all doom and gloom for everyone, though; not all men (or women) find premature ejaculation distressing. Some people embrace PE as a fetish and even train themselves to become ultra-sensitive in order to ensure an early climax. This community of people is called prejacs.
Along with enjoying the surprise of a quick climax, many prejacs may also find the prospect of humiliation within the act to be thrilling. They may like feeling like they can’t satisfy their partner, and their partner may play along, teasing the prejac throughout the experience to amplify their feelings of inadequacy. This is a dom-sub scenario that can lead to great sex for both partners.
Some prejacs train themselves to climax quickly because they struggled with delayed ejaculation (DE) in the past. In the same way that PE can cause distress and sexual frustration, so can feeling like you take too long to reach orgasm.
A prejac’s partner can also find PE exciting. In addition to getting off on the teasing, some partners may feel gratified knowing a prejac can’t control themselves during sex because they find the partner too irresistible.
The trigger method uses a Pavlovian response (Pavlovian conditioning) to trigger a quick climax. Prejacs train themselves through masturbation to associate orgasm with a specific stimulus, like an explicit photo or a verbal command.
How to practice the trigger method:
Masturbate as usual, but ideally with mild material like a clothed woman or no material at all.
Just before you climax, introduce the trigger and focus intently on the trigger while you orgasm.
Repeat the same process with the same stimulus until the association is made.
As Reddit user “SurelyPrematurely” explains in the r/prematurefetish subreddit, the pre-trigger material should be mundane, while the trigger material shouldn’t be something you see every day. “Seeing the trigger over and over without having an associated orgasm will ruin the association,” he says. Therefore, the trigger needs to be something that you will only see at the moment of orgasm.
The one-finger method trains men to reach climax using as little stimulation as possible. In this case, it means using one finger instead of your whole hand during masturbation.
How to practice the one-finger method:
Masturbate to orgasm by rubbing only one finger against your frenulum, a small piece of penile skin that connects the foreskin to the glans on the underside of the penis.
Over time, use even less stimulation to reach orgasm. You may want to use a glove or another piece of cloth over your skin so you learn how to climax with even less stimulation.
Combine the one-finger method with the trigger method for advanced training.
The idea is that by the time you have full penetrative sex, the sensation should be so overwhelming that you’ll climax quickly.
Using a topical anesthetic like lidocaine or benzocaine is a common premature ejaculation treatment. The anesthetic desensitizes the penis to help prolong sex and is meant to be applied just before sex (although the product must dry first so you don’t pass it to your partner).
For prejac training purposes, you can use a topical anesthetic when you masturbate, gradually becoming accustomed to reaching climax with a somewhat numb penis.
Then, when you have penetrative sex without the anesthetic, you’ll be able to reach orgasm quickly due to the heightened sensitivity.
How to practice the topical anesthetic method
Masturbate to orgasm using a topical anesthetic like lidocaine or benzocaine to minimize feeling any external stimulation.
Don’t use the anesthetic when it comes time for penetrative sex. When you have penetrative sex, you’ll be more affected than you normally would to the sensations, leading to faster ejaculation.
Keep in mind that these methods are not medically proven and are based on anecdotal evidence.
If you have a prejac fetish and you’re thinking of training your way to become a “minuteman,” be sure to clue in your partner first (if you’re in a relationship).
They may be just as thrilled by the idea of indulging your fantasy, or they may express their need for longer-lasting sex. If your partner is left feeling unsatisfied by your early arrival, you can make sure they have an orgasm first through non-penetrative sex like oral, fingering, or sex toy play.
Need some tips on how to level up your foreplay game?
Try the following foreplay ideas:
Sexting
Making out
Roleplay and dress up
Exploring erogenous zones
Massaging each other
Playing with a vibrator or prostate massager
Spanking
Sharing sexual fantasies
When you have a premature ejaculation fetish, actually having sex is just a sliver of the experience. After spending ample time on foreplay and then rushing past orgasm, give yourself permission to bask in the afterglow of aftercare.
Popularized in BDSM communities, aftercare refers to the emotional and/or physical care provided to one or both partners after an intimate or sexual experience. It helps partners ease back into “normal” life and strengthen their connection.
Aftercare can look however you want and may include things like:
Talking about the sexual experience
Rehydrating
Having a snack
Cuddling
Listening to music together
Taking a nap
If you’re happily knocking the minutes off your sex sessions, then keep forging ahead. But if premature ejaculation is starting to cause distress for you and/or your partner, and you’re struggling with maintaining control, then it may be time to get help. It's important to recognize that effective treatments for premature ejaculation exist. If your prejac fetish stems from the belief that PE is untreatable, it may be worth discussing with a healthcare provider.
There are a number of treatments for premature ejaculation, including medication, therapy, and behavioral techniques.
The most popular medications for premature ejaculation include:
Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). One of the side effects of antidepressants is difficulty reaching orgasm. For premature ejaculators who want to last longer, this side effect works in your favor. Your provider may prescribe SSRIs like fluoxetine. Hims offers access to a compounded medication called Sex Rx + Climax Control, made with fluoxetine and tadalafil (the generic form of Cialis®), to target premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, which commonly occur together.
Topical anesthetics. You can apply topical anesthetics like lidocaine and benzocaine about 15 minutes before having sex. These medications can help prolong sex by decreasing penile sensitivity. You can also try Hims Climax Control Condoms, which have benzocaine on the inside.
PDE5 inhibitors. Though PDE5 inhibitors like sildenafil (the generic form of Viagra®) and tadalafil are usually prescribed for erectile dysfunction, they’re sometimes taken for PE. Learn more here about using sildenafil for premature ejaculation.
You may also want to talk to a healthcare provider to rule out medical conditions that could be contributing to premature ejaculation, like hormone imbalances or mental health issues.
Psychotherapy, sex therapy, and couples counseling can all help you manage PE. During these sessions, you’ll talk about your PE symptoms, their effects on your sex life and relationships, and potential root causes.
Over time, you’ll devise strategies and techniques for managing your feelings and balancing other contributing factors like sexual performance anxiety or body image issues.
Some techniques that can improve premature ejaculation include:
Stop-start technique. This technique involves stopping during sex just before orgasm and then starting again after the urge goes away.
Squeeze technique. The squeeze technique involves stopping sex just before climax and then squeezing the penis where the head meets the shaft.
Pelvic floor exercises. Also known as Kegels, pelvic floor exercises strengthen the pelvic floor to help you last longer during sex. All you have to do is squeeze and hold for five seconds, relax for five seconds, and repeat 10 to 20 times about four times a day. Not sure how to find your pelvic floor muscles? They’re the ones you use when you stop the flow of urine mid-stream.
Premature ejaculation can be upsetting for many but not all men. Prejacs are a growing community of men who actually enjoy reaching climax early and train themselves to get there faster and faster each time.
If you want to learn more, do the following:
Find a community of other prejacs. Find prejac strategies and training tips on subreddit threads like r/prematurefetish or proudly advertise your fetish the next time you’re updating your dating profile.
Masturbate less. Although the training methods shared above can be perfected through masturbation, you don’t want to overdo it, as you may end up becoming desensitized. The same goes for using porn. Try to engage with less porn—and perhaps none at all if you’re training to be a prejac.
Know when it’s time to stop. Maybe you’re not enjoying yourself anymore. Maybe your partner is sexually frustrated. If you need help overcoming premature ejaculation and becoming less sensitive, reach out to a healthcare provider to get advice.
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