If you want to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unplanned pregnancies, safe sex is an important way to do it.
If you want to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unplanned pregnancies, safe sex is an important way to do it.
But let’s get something straight. When we say “safe sex,” what we really mean is “safer sex” because the only way to completely avoid STIs and unplanned pregnancies is to avoid sex altogether. When you use safe sex practices like condoms and contraceptives, you’re not eliminating the risk, but you are greatly reducing it.
According to the CDC, one in five people in the U.S. has an STI, and nearly half of all new infections occur among young people between the ages of 15 and 24.
When it comes to unplanned pregnancies, around 35 percent of pregnancies in the U.S. are unintended, which is lower than it was in previous years but still constitutes a problem.
To avoid the negative consequences of sexual activity, practicing safe sex is a no-brainer. This guide will discuss how to have safe sex, different types of protection, and how you can protect your partner if you have an STI.
Safe sex, or safer sex, is the practice of protecting yourself and your partners from sexually transmitted infections, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), and unplanned pregnancies. Practicing safe sex is a shared responsibility that helps you both stay healthy and enhances communication between partners.
Aside from abstaining from all sexual activity, there is no way to completely eliminate the risk of STIs or pregnancies if you choose to have sex. However, safe sex practices can significantly reduce these risks.
There are many different types of safe sex practices we’ll discuss in detail below. They include barrier methods like condoms, oral contraceptives like birth control pills, regular STI testing, vaccination, and more.
STDs and STIs are spread from person to person through various forms of sexual contact. You can get an STD via oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex, genital skin-to-skin contact, or contact with body fluids (including vaginal fluids, semen, and blood).
Though rare, some STIs can spread through non-sexual practices, including:
Mouth-to-mouth kissing
Sharing needles and syringes (including tattoo needles)
Sharing sex toys
Mother-to-child transmission during pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding
Though anyone can be infected with an STI, some individuals have a higher risk. According to the Office of Disease Prevention and Health Promotion, these individuals include adolescents, young adults, and men who have sex with men. People who have an STI may have a higher risk of becoming infected with HIV.
All STDs can affect your genitals. They include:
HIV
Hepatitis B
Herpes
Chlamydia
Syphilis
Gonorrhea
Human papillomavirus (HPV), which causes genital warts
Some STDs can also infect your mouth and throat. They include:
Herpes
Hepatitis B
HPV
Chlamydia
Syphilis
Gonorrhea
The aim of safe sex is to prevent contact with infected bodily fluids and genital skin to reduce the risk of STIs and STDs.
There are many ways to practice safe sex, which we’ll discuss in detail below. Besides abstinence, the most common way to prevent STDs is to use barrier methods like condoms, internal condoms, and dental dams every single time you have vaginal, oral, or anal sex or when sharing sex toys.
Condoms help to prevent the exchange of bodily fluids, but they also minimize skin-to-skin contact and pregnancy, making them one of the most effective ways to protect your sexual health.
From condoms to birth control to vaccinations, there are numerous forms of sex protection, whether you’re trying to reduce the risk of STIs or unplanned pregnancies (or both).
They include:
Barrier protection for STIs
Contraceptives
Regular STI testing
Vaccines
HIV prevention
Avoiding high-risk behaviors
Just as it sounds, barrier protection provides a barrier between bodies to prevent the exchange of fluids and reduce the risk of STI infection.
The best barrier protection for sex includes:
Condoms
Internal condoms
Dental dams
Male condoms, which can be worn directly on a penis or sex toy, have come a long way from the tortoiseshell sheaths once worn in Japan. With correct and consistent use, today’s condoms are around 97 percent effective in protecting against most STIs and pregnancy.
Condoms are made of various materials, including polyurethane, latex, and natural lambskin. Latex condoms are less porous than natural condoms and more flexible than polyurethane condoms, making them a highly effective barrier.
Some condoms are pre-lubricated for comfort, but you can always add more lube to reduce friction. We recommend a water-based lube over an oil-based one, as oil can cause condom breakage.
It’s important to note that using condoms does not offer 100 percent protection from STDs and STIs. Infections spread through skin-to-skin contact, like HPV or herpes sores, can still be transmitted if you come into direct contact with them. A condom only offers protection from the area of skin it’s covering.
Also known as female condoms, internal condoms are worn inside the vagina. With correct and consistent use, they are about 95 percent effective in reducing the risk of infection against STIs and pregnancy.
Internal condoms should never be used in combination with male condoms as it can lead to tearing and breakage.
Dental dams can help prevent the spread of STIs during oral-vaginal or oral-anal sex. They are most useful in preventing infections spread through fluid exchanges but not as useful in protecting against skin-based infections like herpes or HPV.
If you don’t know where to buy a dental dam, you can make one out of a condom by cutting off both ends so the condom appears like a tube. Then cut vertically down one side, so you have a flat piece of material to place over the vagina or anus.
Contraceptives, also known as birth control, are methods, medications, and devices that help prevent pregnancies.
They include:
Condoms
Birth control pills
IUDs
Spermicide
Diaphragms
Emergency contraception
You already know how effective condoms are in preventing STIs and pregnancy. But to remain effective, they must be worn consistently and correctly. If you fail to use condoms during every sexual encounter or not correctly, pregnancy rates increase to 18 in every 100 women within the first year of condom use.
Follow these tips to help prevent condom failure.
Wear condoms every time you have sex
Put a condom on before you penetrate, not just before you ejaculate
Never use a condom past its expiration date
Don’t wear two condoms together as the friction can cause tearing
Use water-based (not oil-based) lubricants with condoms
Ensure you’re wearing the right size condom
Use condoms in combination with other forms of birth control, like oral contraceptives
When used consistently, prescription birth control pills are 99 percent effective in preventing pregnancy, but as Planned Parenthood points out, most people aren’t perfect. Because it’s easy to forget or miss pills, this form of contraception is more like 93 percent effective.
To increase efficacy, birth control pills can be used in combination with condoms, which offers the added bonus of STI protection. Oral contraceptives only help prevent pregnancy, not STIs.
Intrauterine devices (IUDs) are more than 99 percent effective, making them one of the most reliable forms of birth control.
This tiny device is placed directly inside the uterus, offering 24/7 protection from pregnancy for up to 12 years (or less, depending on the type used). IUDs can also be removed at any time.
There are two types of IUDs: hormonal and copper. Both types prevent sperm from reaching the egg, thus preventing fertilization and pregnancy. Some hormonal types also help prevent ovulation.
IUDs are only available with a prescription and should only be inserted by a healthcare professional.
Spermicide consists of chemicals like nonoxynol-9, which prevent sperm from reaching the egg by blocking entry to the cervix. It comes in the form of gels, foams, and creams, which are inserted deep into the vagina before sex.
When used consistently, spermicide is only 79 to 86 percent effective in preventing pregnancy. It is more effective when paired with another form of birth control, like condoms. In fact, some condoms come pre-lubricated with spermicide solutions.
Diaphragms are around 94 percent effective when used perfectly every time or about 83 percent effective with typical use.
Shaped like a little disc, these devices are worn inside the vagina and block the cervix, preventing sperm from reaching the egg. When used in combination with other birth control methods like condoms and/or spermicide, diaphragms are even more effective.
Emergency contraception refers to contraceptive methods that are used after sexual intercourse to prevent pregnancy. This method can be useful if you had unprotected sex or if you fear the method you used failed.
Some forms of emergency contraception include copper IUDs and emergency contraceptive pills. These methods should be used within five days of intercourse but are more effective the earlier they are used.
Knowing your STI status is another important way to prevent the spread of infections. You shouldn’t wait until you have symptoms before getting tested because many STIs are asymptomatic. If you’re sexually active, STI testing should be routine.
According to the CDC, everyone between the ages of 13 to 64 years should be tested at least once for HIV. If you’re sexually active, you may want to routinely test for syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and HIV at least once a year (or more frequently if you have multiple or anonymous partners).
If you have oral or anal sex, you can also ask your healthcare provider about throat and rectal testing options.
Some pre-exposure vaccines can help prevent STIs.
Currently, there are vaccinations for:
HPV. The HPV vaccine has a high efficacy rate of nearly 100 percent in preventing HPV. It’s typically recommended you get vaccinated by age 26 when the risk of being exposed to the virus is lower.
Hepatitis A. Some individuals have a higher risk of contracting hepatitis A, such as international travelers, men who have sex with men, and those who use or inject drugs. Getting vaccinated for this disease is a safe and highly effective way of reducing your risk.
Hepatitis B. The hepatitis B vaccine offers 80 to 100 percent protection against contracting the disease. All adults 19 to 59 years old should be vaccinated. Risk factors include having a partner with the disease, having multiple sexual partners, having certain health conditions like diabetes, or using injectable drugs.
Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) and post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) are medications taken before or after sex to prevent HIV infection.
According to the CDC, PrEP reduces the risk of getting HIV from sex by about 99 percent and reduces the risk of HIV from injection drug use by at least 74 percent. However, the medication only protects against HIV, so you should use condoms to reduce the risk of other STDs.
PEP, which is taken after a single high-risk event, must be taken at least 72 hours to help prevent HIV. It is considered an emergency method and can be useful if a condom broke, if you share needles, or if you were sexually assaulted.
You can also minimize your risk of STIs and unplanned pregnancies by avoiding high-risk behaviors.
To help reduce your risk, try the following:
Don’t have unprotected sex
Limit your number of sexual partners
Avoid substance abuse
Properly clean sex toys
Try non-penetrative sex ideas like mutual masturbation
There are many ways you can make sex safer if you have STDs, from being open about your sexual history to using condoms consistently.
You can reduce the risk of infecting your partner with an STD by doing the following:
Be open about your STD status and discuss your sexual history and history of drug use with your partners
Use condoms and dental dams consistently and correctly
Avoid having sex during a herpes outbreak or if you notice any unusual sores or discharge
If you have herpes, consider taking antiviral drugs like valacyclovir
Try not to have sex when drinking or taking drugs when you’re more likely to engage in risky behaviors
If you’re taking medication for a curable STD like chlamydia or syphilis, remember to take all of your medication as directed and don’t have sex until you complete treatment
Always clean sex toys after using them
Unless you’re celibate and avoid all skin-to-skin contact with others, there’s no way to prevent STIs with 100 percent precision. But you can significantly reduce your risk of STIs and unplanned pregnancies by following these steps:
Educate yourself on how STDs are spread. STDs are transmitted through various forms of sexual contact, such as oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex, genital skin-to-skin contact, or contact with body fluids. Though rarer, some low-risk behaviors, like kissing or sharing sex toys, can also spread infections.
There are various ways to have safe sex. To reduce the risk of STIs, you can use condoms and dental dams, get vaccinated, or take antiviral medications. To reduce the risk of unplanned pregnancies, you can use contraceptive methods like condoms, birth control pills, diaphragms, IUDs, or emergency contraception.
If you have an STD, practicing safe sex can help protect your partner. Use condoms consistently, don’t have sex if you see sores or unusual discharge, and seek treatment for curable infections.
If you think you have an STI or may have been exposed to one, don’t delay getting tested. The sooner you know your status and seek treatment, the better off you’ll be. Find out more about how to support your sexual health by reading this guide to penis health, explore the connection between STDs and erectile dysfunction, and learn the difference between HSV-1 vs HSV-2.
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