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Multiple orgasms: women love them, men wish they could have them. Or maybe they are having them?
Whether you’re a man or a woman trying to learn more about the infamous and mythic multiple male orgasm, you’re in good company. There’s not a lot of knowledge out there, but there are a lot of people asking questions.
Unlocking the secrets of the male multiple orgasm could be considered a Raiders of the Lost Ark-level treasure hunt (perhaps with similar consequences — who knows).
But research on multiple orgasms is in its infancy compared to fields of sexual medicine like erectile dysfunction.
In short, there’s not a lot of data out there, and the data we have suggests that your odds of having multiple orgasms as a man aren’t great. But rather than look at the orgasm quota as half empty, let’s take a look at what we know so far.
To answer your first question (and the question this article is addressing): yes, yes you can. Men can, in fact, have multiple orgasms.
However, the frequency of men who can is surprisingly low, at less than 10 percent. And multiple orgasms are not the same in men as women. The female orgasm is different, in part because the refractory period for women is different.
But we’ll get to that in a moment.
Let’s first address what you came here for: the scoop on male multiple orgasms.
According to the research we have, there are two types of male multiple orgasms: sporadic and condensed. Essentially, the two ways a man can orgasm multiple times is either:
In a cluster with a latency period of a few minutes between.
Multiple times in such rapid succession that the transition from one to the next seems instantaneous.
Annnnnnd that about covers everything we know.
The truth is, there isn’t a lot of scientific study on the topic of multiple orgasms for men.
The particular area of interest is the refractory period — the period in which your body is not sexually responsive to stimulation after an orgasm. We don’t know much about why it does or doesn’t change.
What we do know is very subjective information, mostly gathered from men themselves reflecting on the experiences.
This makes it incredibly difficult to verify any of the information provided.
Men have a wide range of post-orgasm sexual response periods or refractory periods. It can take as little as a few minutes to as long as a day for men to recover from a previous orgasm.
Multiple orgasms for men also tend to cluster around certain habits — experiences with psychostimulant drug use, delayed ejaculation (sometimes referred to as a dry orgasm), sex toys and group sex situations tend to lend themselves to the highest likelihood of multiple orgasms.
Oddly, the ability to have multiple orgasms actually declines as you age. You’re most likely to be able to achieve multiple orgasms in your twenties, and the decline begins in your thirties.
At the end of the day, multiple orgasms might be great, but the truth is that for a lot of men, your quest for the ol’ double-double probably started because you’re dropping the ball in the bedroom.
It’s less about this mythical tantric experience where the fun seems to never end, and more about figuring out how to last longer without having to tell your partner you accidentally jumped the gun.
And hey… That’s okay. It happens to the best of us.
That said, rather than chase orgasmic Atlantis, it may be easier to focus on controlling your orgasms and extending your travel time from point A to point B.
What might help you learn to control and enhance your orgasms are a series of techniques, tools and methods designed to help men suffering from premature ejaculation
Calling the start-stop technique a “technique” for controlling your orgasm during sex is generous. This isn’t so much a technique as, well, just stopping and then starting again later, when the urge to ejaculate goes away.
If you’ve tried to increase your time-to-ejaculation generally (or have been dealing with premature ejaculation), there’s a chance you’ve tried a version of this without even knowing it.
According to experts, you’re meant to repeat this several times during a session so that you can learn to recognize the signs of sexual arousal that occur before orgasm.
Studies on the start-stop technique are limited, but they generally support its efficacy.
One small study found that start-stop added several minutes to the time to ejaculate, but that study looked at start-stop in tandem with other therapies, too.
So, we don’t know for sure what was behind the results. Still, that does give it some legitimacy when paired with other techniques.
Pelvic floor exercises are by far the most scientifically beneficial “technique.”
They focus on building stamina through outside-of-sex training, rather than requiring you to interrupt the orgasmic experience during intercourse.
Pelvic floor exercises, or kegels (they’re not just for women!), are exercises you can do at your desk or while playing video games.
The goal of this exercise is to contract the muscles that control urination only those muscles at will to strengthen them and increase your control over ejaculation. These muscles weaken with age, and weakness is linked to incontinence issues, as well as premature ejaculation.
A 2019 systematic review examined 10 erectile dysfunction trials and concluded that “pelvic floor muscle training appears effective in treating erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.”
The review, which was limited, acknowledged that no “optimal training protocol has been identified.” The review also noted a wide range of success rates, so there’s reason to believe pelvic floor exercises might not be helpful to everyone.
Of all the techniques discussed here, we can safely say that the “squeeze technique” is the most unpleasant-sounding way to stop sexual activity from coming to an abrupt end. Nevertheless, it is effective.
Here’s how it works: just before orgasm, you pull out, and you somewhat gently squeeze the tip of your penis between your fingers to decrease your level of arousal.
After doing this for 30 seconds or so, it should get you back to pre-ejaculatory enthusiasm levels, though you may have to repeat this technique several times before getting back in the game.
The squeeze technique was essentially the technique until the ‘90s, but it has quite a few limitations — among them being having the self control to stop and pull out.
Multiple orgasms might sound great, but satisfying sex and abundant sexual pleasure aren’t questions of quantity — they’re questions of quality.
That means that one really good orgasm should be better than a dozen mediocre ones. But it also means that rather than bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm and stopping on some misguided crusade to unlock some new level of pleasure, you should focus on sharing the moment with your partner (or partners).
Having anal orgasms, prostate orgasms, dry orgasms and becoming a multi-orgasmic man sounds like fun.
But the intense pleasure of great sex with someone you connect with is almost always better than whatever concocted new level of pleasure you can find on the internet. That’s not to say that sex toys, anal penetration or any other pleasurable sensation you want to have isn’t worth your time. You’re just going to enjoy it much more when you’re sharing it with someone who’s equally invested and present in the experience.