How I Make My Wife Squirt

If you’ve never made your partner squirt during sex, you may think it’s an urban legend or nothing more than a special effect in porn.

However, four in 10 women have reported squirting at least once in their lifetime. Many women (or their partners) use specific techniques and types of stimulation to bring on the gush. For some, though, squirting is spontaneous.

But, to dial things back—does squirting even feel good? And can all women learn how to do it? To get some answers, we talked to experts (and with a man who makes his wife squirt regularly) about the sexual experience. Keep reading to learn tips that may make female squirting easier for those who are itching to get drenched.

Squirting is an involuntary release of fluid from the urethra during sexual stimulation or orgasm.

Though many people refer to squirting as female ejaculation, some research shows that the two phenomena are not the same. Clear fluid expelled during female squirting is similar to urine and is released by the urinary bladder. Female ejaculation (FE) fluid is a milky-white substance released from the paraurethral glands, also known as the Skene’s glands, which are located on the front wall of the vagina. These glands are also sometimes called the female prostate gland.

Because squirting and female ejaculation often co-occur, and many women can’t tell them apart, some researchers have chosen to use the terms interchangeably. Squirting can, therefore, be interpreted as any involuntary release of fluid during sexual stimulation or orgasm.

Yes, for many women, squirting is a sign of intense sexual arousal or a release of built-up tension.

According to Sara Silverstein, a somatic sexologist and sex coach, some women orgasm with their squirting liquid, and others feel “a general release with no orgasmic component.”

Matt*, a 40-year-old from Southern California, says his wife squirts when she’s “really, really worked up or turned on.” He says, “It’s tangible feedback that she wants a complete release… she can just let loose.”

In small one survey of 28 women who had experienced squirting, women described the experience in various terms, including:

• “An incredibly powerful orgasmic feeling”

• “A tension that lets go”

• “Another level of satisfaction”

• “A sexual superpower”

A 2023 self-reported study of women in the U.S. ages 18 to 93 found that 40 percent had squirted at some point in their lifetime. Though 60 percent of these women reported squirting to be very or somewhat pleasurable, only 20 percent had “always” experienced squirting and female orgasms together.

Matt says that whether his wife squirts depends on the kind of orgasm she’s having and how connected and close they feel as a couple. While he admits to having a few tricks for getting her to squirt, he says one factor has made the likelihood of squirting infinitely easier: having kids.

In the survey of 28 women mentioned above, some women did say the felt squirting was connected either to having new sensations in the vagina after giving birth or as a result of being more relaxed and open-minded about sex.

While some women report that squirting occurs unintentionally, many use specific techniques to promote the buildup and release. These strategies include using sex toys, trying specific sex positions, clitoris or G-spot stimulation, and more.

However, before you start poking at your partner’s vulva in a new way, it’s important to talk with them about whether or not they even want to try squirting and get clear, enthusiastic consent.

Matt suggests being transparent about your own desires to make her squirt. “Just be really honest and tell them what you think is sexy about squirting and why.” Seeing his wife uninhibited is what he likes most about making her squirt.

Step-by-Step Guide to Making Your Partner Squirt

Making a girl squirt doesn’t require any fancy equipment or courses. But there are a few moves you can try. They include:

Make Sure She’s Relaxed and Fully Aroused

According to OnlyFans model Jennie Kennedy, who says she squirts “very easily” and “almost every time” with her partner, relaxation is key. “If you're worried about the sheets, it's far less likely to happen,” she says. “You will feel a pressure build up, and that’s when you realize it's time to relax into the feeling and let it happen.”

Put Down a Sex Blanket or Plastic Sheet

Squirting can be messy. To ensure she’s not distracted by what will happen to the sheets, lay down a squirt blanket, plastic sheet, or other protective cover that you won’t mind getting wet.

Focus On Foreplay

As with all sex acts, one crucial way to help make sure she’s fully in the mood is foreplay. Silverstein recommends giving her about 20 minutes to “warm up,” possibly using a G-spot vibrator or a curved dildo. Also, feel free to explore the various erogenous zones across her body—like her breasts, her inner thighs, and her neck—to make her pleasure a full-body experience.

Combine G-Spot and Clitoral Stimulation

The G-spot area is located on the front vaginal wall, about two to three inches inside the vagina. You can find it by inserting a finger (using lube!) and performing a "come hither" motion, moving slightly upwards and inwards. The highly sensitive clitoris is a small pea-sized structure located at the top of the vulva.

One of the easiest ways to make her squirt is to combine G-spot and clitoral stimulation. To do this, insert your index and ring finger into her vagina and point upward. At the same time, place the heel of your hand against the clitoris. Try different types of manual stimulation—tapping, caressing, stroking with your fingers—while stimulating the clitoris with the heel of your hand.

Various toys can also help produce these sensations, or she can stimulate her clitoris via masturbation while you focus on fingering.

How do you know she’s getting close? Silverstein says that women often think they’re about to pee right before they squirt. She encourages women to keep going if they feel this sensation.

Try a New Sex Position

If you want to try to make your wife squirt during sex, there are a couple of sexual positions you’ll want to try first. They include:

• Doggy style. Have her get on all fours and penetrate from behind while kneeling or standing at the edge of the bed. At the same time, hold a vibrator against her clitoris to ensure a combo of clitoral and G-spot stimulation.

• Reverse cowgirl. Lie on your back and have her straddle you while facing the opposite direction. This position puts her in control and lets her find the right depth and type of stimulation to get the most sexual pleasure without blocking access to her clitoris.

Practice Aftercare

While the fluid released during squirting is similar to urine, it’s not always completely the same thing. The misconception that it is urine can make some women feel uncomfortable about squirting, especially if it’s their first time. She may try to clean up right away or apologize, even if she just had the biggest, most pleasurable squirting orgasm of her life.

To avoid these feelings of discomfort and awkwardness, practice a aftercare by cuddling, asking her about the sexual experience, or doing something else to ease her mind.

Squirting is far from being a myth. If you haven’t been able to get your partner there, don’t fret. You may need to try a new technique. Here’s what we know:

• Squirting and female ejaculation are not the same thing. Squirting involves the involuntary release of fluid from the urethra during sexual stimulation or orgasm, which is not the same as female ejaculation. However, many women confuse the two sensations, so some researchers use the terms interchangeably.

• Physical and emotional factors may influence squirting. Relaxation, arousal, and emotional connection between partners may influence whether or not your partner squirts. Techniques like combining G-spot and clitoral stimulation, engaging in extended foreplay, and using sex toys can help make it more likely for a woman to squirt.

• More research is needed to know if all women can learn how to squirt. One study found that 40 percent of women have experienced squirting at least once in their lives. Most have found the experience pleasurable.

Want more tips on how to bring her closer to orgasm and potentially make her squirt? Check out this guide on how to please a woman, learn six tips to make her orgasm, and explore these non-penetrative sex ideas.

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